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I swear you wrote that about my own experience; it’s so sadly accurate. I am a year and a half in of being unemployed and no prospects on the horizon nor does anything sound remotely sustainable upon description. I don’t know where that leaves us in a place in society right now and the foreseeable future. I usually have such little hope these days, but knowing I’m not alone in these experiences helps a great deal. Thank you for your writing.

Helen J | AuDHD Reframe's avatar

An iteration of this has tripped me up in every employed or self-employed role I’ve ever had.

Jobs that I got through informal interviews and did really well in morphed into something completely different before my eyes as companies grew, colleagues appeared, protocols were adopted and job descriptions expanded. Burning out by 25, I became self-employed and won a clutch of grateful regular clients through sheer hard work but one entity, on which I depended the most and which was run by committee, called a meeting about me, after I’d diligently worked for them for five years, to question was I worth it, was I doing enough for my money, why couldn’t I do it in a more “conventional” manner (never mind that my way worked so well and saved them fortunes compared to employing staff), why didn’t I work as more of a team reporting back every minor decision to committee as a matter of protocol (never mind most of them were volunteers that understood little to nothing about the tasks I performed or the software I used). They made me feel like I was on trial and so I left.

Another company that had happily subcontracted work to me for years because I was their best person for turning around high quality and pretty challenging work in huge volume without ever giving them anything to worry about, I was even told I was the best they had ever had, decided to reformat who was allowed to to do said work and suddenly they were doing it in house, where they could watch over it more closely and make economies. I was declared obsolete at the worst possible time, just as my divorce became final, as the parent of a small child with a hefty mortgage (I had pinned my very survival strategy on the regularity of this work).

Within two more years, I had burned out again, only this time it was massive and I was never capable of working again due to my health.

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